What is back stabbed? The word Back stabbed have a lot of meaning and one of the most well-known meaning is taking a knife and stabbed into a individual back but there's another meaning that is betrayed or bad mouthing behind someone.So with all that said do you ever get back stabbed by someone you trusted,maybe from your family members,best friend,classmates, or co-workers?If your answer is a yes,I'm sorry but I totally understand how you feel and I've experience it so many time but just its not from family(this hurts the most), or co-worker,but friend is yes.And sadly its not only once or twist but so many times that I couldn't really remember how many times is it.The feeling sucks and the consequences are even worst because you will have to recover from your shattered heart,accept the reality and faced the facts that someone who listen to the slander will start to misunderstand you.But don't be sad or think that your life isn't worth it because when there's a way in there's always a way out and it will take time to find your way out from the maze runner game but just in a more sad situation rather than scary and exciting.OK this is a few tips of overcoming this very hard time but I won't be 100% guaranteed that it will help or succeed but why not give it a try because as my idol 'RICHARD ST.JOHN' always said:you never try,you never failed,in the same time you will never succeed if you never try.So here are the way and all of this following tips are same and is not following any order.
1.LET GO AND FORGIVE
If you never learn to forgive,you will never ever release yourself from the prison that you had locked yourself into. Forgiving does not mean that you will forget the incident instantly or have to stay as a friend with him or her but forgiving is actually for your own good because when someone has done something bad don't worried because one day they will get the retribution and punishment that they deserve but in a legal way so there's no need to was you time and energy to make yourself angrier and mood down all the time.Remember life is short be happy always and ignore the things that does not concerned you or your life and focus on what's meaningful and got to do with your success.
2.STAND STILL AND STRONG
Don't let other people misunderstanding be the reason you give up your career, education or even life, because always remember god give you life, and in life everyone will faced the bad event or in other word an unwanted event more than 1 time in their life so remember that you are not facing this hard and tough time alone as their are people that faced something even worst everyday but still have the faith to not giving up on their life and move on till the end of time. OK if your own best friend misunderstand you, you should start to open your eyes and mind wider and be aware that he or she does not deserve to be your friend and you should start to cut the ties. Just note that having no friends is actually not a bad things so its OK not to have any friends.
3.CONFRONT THE BACKSTABBER
There must be a reason for someone to back stabbed you and most of the time the reason is due to jealousy and misunderstand but it is still better to ask so that it will be clearer and the both of you could cure things up and start afresh.Note:during the conversation,never ever be rude or using a high tone as it will only make the situation worst and even thought you did nothing wrong but once you raise your voice and using drastic word other people will suspect that the lie is real.Another note:listen first of what the respondent wanted to said and not just interrupting half way because that will change the emotion of the respondent to be from cool to frustrated.
4.TAKE THIS AS A LESSON
I know you might have not done anything wrong but still,you should take this as a life lesson to not believe in someone outside from your comfort zone(family,relative) so easily.Of course I'm not saying to not have a close friend or act everyone as your enemy or what so ever,but all I wanted to said is just to be more careful.Actually want to know what someone who back stabbed you is actually more likely to be the one who is closer to you and know most of your weakness and this is based in my experience.
5.TELL SOMEONE (BE HONEST)
Definitely not everyone lost believe in you, so for the one who did not lost any believe in you, try to confront them and tell them the truth and that you had been framed or get bad mouth by some individual and I'm sure that they will understand and lend you a hand to bring back your justice and dignity. If no one believe in you (with don't happen frequently but it could happen) remember there's always a family member who are ready to lent a listening ear to you. Why be honest? the answer is once you lied you won't feel good or peace and in reality you are back stabbing others as well so you are basically no different from the low level (not serious) perpetrator. So be honest and it will be easier to clear your innocent name.
6.LET YOUR ANGER OUT
So let it all out but not letting your anger out by: smocking, drinking alcohol, doing illegal activities, commit a crime, doing illegal drugs because that will totally make the situation worst for you and your life as well because most of the following are something that will only make you feel good for a tiny while but the pain and sadness will last forever,so remember just never ever get into all that crime because its not worth it and not even the slighter's bit.So now you might ask how should I release all my anger? Here's how
1.Use a stress relief toys, squeeze it, punch it, kick it do whatever you want with it but don't hurt yourself
2.Listening to music depending on your likings.Note:Don't listen it with a high volume if using headphone as it will damage your hearing.If you are using a speaker or a boom box remember to check on you neighbours.
3.Go to the gym, in the gym there are a tons of friendly people who you can interact with without feeling awkward or shy,in the gym there are also a punching bag that you could punch till you feel good.NOTE:Make sure that you have no medical record such as heart problem,breathing problem or bone problem as that will be dangerous and for safety purpose, do consult your family doctor first.
So there you go 6 of my best tips to overcome this sad and angry moment in life. As closure I'm going to said that I believe in all of you and I know the reason you read this blog is because you had been back stabbed but remember you are never alone in this world there are always someone who you can believe in and there are also always someone who will help you so don't worried and live your life happily.
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